I am a very straight forward kind of person.
I call a spade a spade and whilst I appreciate this trait in the people I surround myself with, it seems that this is not the case with everyone.
I was chatting to a work friend today who out of the blue said she heard the two tea ladies talking about me in the kitchen today. The one was trying to describe me to the other one and said something along the lines of “you know the girl who’s mean/nasty to everyone”. So my friend asked who they were referring to and they described me. She then asked them why they said I was mean/nasty to everyone and they said that I am too straight forward.
They referred to an incident (one I cannot for the life of me remember) where two other work colleagues were sharing a really small muffin for breakfast where I apparently offended them by commenting on the fact that the muffin was too small to be shared. I mean, what? This makes me mean/nasty?
I butt heads a lot with one of our regional managers in our field marketing arm and do not tolerate being sold stupid excuses as to why my sales aren’t there. This apparently makes me mean/nasty.
I have been trying in recent months to soften my delivery, as this friend told me once that I sometimes can be too honest and that people may take this the wrong way. I wish it didn’t irk me that I am considered the mean girl of the office, but it does. I like to think that I am a likeable person, one that is funny but also someone who can be trusted to tell it like it is.
I guess I need to work more on that delivery… or shut the heck up!