Monkey…

My bug can be a really cute monkey sometimes.

He usually goes down the slide at warp speed but he bumped his head the other day and we told him to go slower – hence the snail’s pace in this video!  I also love the whole “mamma, mommy, mom, mamma….Ah daddy” bit.  It’s probably not as funny as it seems to me but here it is for your viewing pleasure.  Oh and apologies for the incessant Labrador panting as the soundtrack to this video – in her defense it was a really hot day 😉

Oh and a spot prize for anyone who can spot the jack russel…

 

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3 Years…

On the 20th of January you were gone for three years.

THREE years.

It still feels so surreal to me yet I know that you’re gone.  I was incredibly emotional.  I just found that for some reason I was really missing you but that I was also working through some serious anger at you.  It was a friend’s baby’s first birthday party and Cliff had gone for a cycle in the morning so I had a lot to do and get sorted out before we had to leave for the party on my own but I woke feeling disgruntled and “off”.  I did what needed to be done and loved on my little boy, but I was disgruntled and “off”.  I found myself staring at the photo of you on my wall while feeding Kade his breakfast and was surprised to be close to tears.

I couldn’t understand why.  It’s been three years for gosh sakes.   A LOT has happened since you passed away.  Why now all of a sudden would it be hitting me so hard?  I guess now that I’ve had some time to reflect on the way I was feeling that day, it boils down to the fact that there I was getting my family ready to celebrate a “new” life all the while remembering the day you died.

The rollercoaster of *that* day three years ago – being called so early in the morning to say you’d take a turn for the worst.  The next call to say you’d stabilised and were joking with the nurses, followed too soon by the news that you had left us.  Perhaps with time, the feelings that I’d pushed down at the time of your death are finding a way of working themselves out of my emotional well.

Know this, some days I still miss you so much it hurts, but most days I think of you with a fondness that comes from the love we shared.  Some days I think of the bad times and I hate what you did with a force that rocks me, but most days the anger doesn’t have the strength to surface.

Know this.  Everyday I still love you and I always will.

 

Travel Advise…

As everyone else in the blogosphere struggles to get back into the working frame of mind, fresh back from your Festive season holiday travels, I find myself battling to focus myself at work.  But for very different reasons.

The Young Family are soon heading to the beaches of Plettenberg bay for OUR holiday and I cannot wait!  The last time we were on a PROPER holiday I was 18 weeks pregnant and I can feel that I am well overdue a time out and good rest… Ha!  Who am I kidding?  I will be on holiday with boisterous 20 month old – I won’t be getting much rest or time out but I will (weather gods permitting) be getting a good healthy glow to my skin.

Whilst I am terribly excited about hitting the beach with my little guy and seeing his first time reactions to all Plett has to offer him, I am a tad nervous too.  Why?  Cos we are flying to PE and this will be Kade’s first flight.

Thankfully, just as the holiday season was hitting last year, I got the following travel tips from the Pampers Institute:

Starting to plan your year end trip? Many new parents feel that once they have a baby that their travel days are over, but many parents will tell you that the first six months are the easiest time to travel with a baby. Is it easy? Not exactly, but with enough planning and the right attitude, it’s not as hard as you might think.

Planning will ensure that you and baby have a safe, relaxing and healthy trip.

If you’re travelling by car, Pampers Institute member and leading pediatrician, Dr Hari recommends planning the trip around baby’s routine. “Try driving at night or early in the morning when baby is most likely to sleep. I also suggest sticking colourful pictures of babies or flowers to the back of the seat facing baby. A good baby car seat is essential to ensure safety.”

Travel Tips for Baby

For many couples, December is about packing bags and heading off to a beautiful destination to relax, rejuvenate and recover from a year filled with the usual comings and goings of a busy life. If, however, you’ve just had a baby or a toddler is a member of your household, you may feel hesitant about booking that accommodation. The good news is that according to the expert panelists of the Pampers® Institute, travelling with baby this festive season needn’t turn into a stressful ordeal.

On the road

If you’re travelling by car, Pampers® Institute member and leading pediatrician, Dr Hari recommends planning the trip around baby’s routine. “Try driving at night or early in the morning when baby is most likely to sleep. I also suggest sticking colourful pictures of babies or flowers to the back of the seat facing baby. A good baby car seat is essential to ensure safety.”

Renowned parenting expert and Pampers® Institute representative, Sister Lilian offers the following advice: “Long car journeys need to be broken frequently to take into account the short concentration span of your little ones and their need for movement. Also ensure that baby is not hungry when setting out, and avoid any foods that give unnatural energy highs like sweet or savoury treats and flavoured drinks.”

In the air

For baby’s first plane ride consider the following top tips suggested by pediatric nutritionist and Pampers® Institute expert, Claire McHugh:

·         Feed during take-off and landing:  babies can’t pop their ears, so it’s helpful to offer a bottle to ease this pressure.

·         Pack plenty of formula, bottles, food and enough water for bottles and cereal. If you’re nursing, stay well hydrated so that you produce enough milk throughout the flight.

“Flying with baby from a week or two after birth is possible if all is well with mom and baby. With that said, it is often advisable to wait for the first six weeks to give both mom and baby time to get to know each other well and adjust to their new life together, so that mom is quite comfortable handling baby. It is also a good idea to be sure that baby is well which is usually confirmed at the first check-up at 6 weeks.”

“It is important to treat any colds or blocked noses and upper respiratory or ear infections, as excessive mucus can increase the discomfort experienced from pressure in the ears on take-off and landing. Baby should not drink for between one and two hours before take-off, so that there is a strong urge to drink when in the plane to help equalise pressure,” adds Sister Lilian.

 

Travel Bag Checklist

Sister Lilian suggests the following essentials for your travel bag for car and plane travels:

ü  A bag of special little toys that are only used in the car. Make sure the same toy is not given on each journey

ü  Music that soothes both little ones and their parents

ü  Mobiles dangled from the roof of the car

ü  A bunch of keys and a magnet are very useful for fascinating older babies endlessly

ü  Older children respond well to recorded stories

ü  A change of clothes for inevitable spills and leaks

ü  Pampers® nappies and wipes

ü  Bottles and a non-spill cup

ü  A security item from home like a blanket (also for warmth as flights can be very cold)

ü  Rubbish bags

ü  Baby food utensils and cups

ü  Toys that baby hasn’t seen before

ü  A jacket and cap for small babies

ü  Healthy snacks like dried or fresh fruit

ü  A dummy for those who make use of one

Bon Voyage

Perhaps the best piece of advice put forward by the Pampers® Institute is to plan ahead. The experts recommend mentally working through your holiday plans as you pack so that you are prepared for every eventuality. Sunblock for the beach is as important as a good quality bucket and spade, while gloves and beanies will find their way into your suitcase if you picture your baby in colder climes. Whatever the weather may be, being prepared will ensure a happy stress-free holiday for mom, baby and indeed the entire family.

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Now a lot of the above tips can be used for Kade’s first flight and holiday travel but tell me peeps, how would you suggest I keep my extremely energetic 20 month old entertained on our flight bearing in mind that we DO NOT have an IPAD or TABLET of any way, shape or form?

Assvice seriously needed here!

Sometimes I still feel like the Fat Chick…

Last year I went on a journey with my body.

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I started and completed the Dr Cohen first personal diet.  It worked incredibly well for me.  I lost 20kg’s and lost a total of 156 cm’s, I dropped 3 dress sizes (sometimes depending on the cut 4) and yet sometimes I still feel like the “Fat Chick.”

It’s really odd how one needs to focus on re-training your thought patterns around ones body image as well as training your physical body in losing the weight.  For too many years I thought of myself as “fat”, “ugly”, “shapeless” – so very negative about myself and my body.  Enduring seven years of infertility did absolutely NOTHING for my insecurities and deepened my hatred for my body.

I know I’m very different now. I look different but I also feel different.

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I feel so much better and most of the time I am the confident, sexy feeling person I’ve become through this process.  But little things can take me right back into the “fat”, “ugly” thought mode.  My sister bought me a skirt recently – when she gave it to me I took it out the bag and loved it but I immediately said to her “I’ll NEVER fit into this, it’s tiny”… she just looked at me and said “put it on”.   In that moment I was still the “fat chick” who was going to feel shit about herself cos the skirt wouldn’t fit.  Well not only does it fit, but it actually looks really good on.

I’m trying hard to make sure that I don’t allow myself to think of myself in a negative way anymore.  I’ve realised that half of the battle of the bulge is mental.  I had to have my head in the game last year when I made a serious choice to live a healthier lifestyle… I made a choice that is going to stay with me for a lifetime and will not be some fad diet that does not sustain a healthy me long term.  Now I have to ensure that my head STAYS in the game.

Because even though I might feel like it sometimes, in reality I am no longer the “fat chick” that I used to be.

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Thoroughly Spoilt :)

I took part in last year’s Blogger Secret Santa and boy was I thoroughly spoiled by my Santa 🙂

Look at this loot!!

My package

My package

The wrapped goodness

The wrapped goodness

My goodies...

My goodies…

Gel pens :) Yayness!!

Gel pens 🙂 Yayness!!

Smellies :)

Smellies 🙂

Gorgeous HEARTS :)

Gorgeous HEARTS 🙂

Thank you SO much Cassie!  You really thoroughly spoilt me.

Also a massive thanks to Charlotte who organised it – what a huge undertaking!  You rock.

con•nect (ke -n kt )

con•nect   (ke -n kt )

v. con•nect•ed, con•nect•ing, con•nects

v.tr.

  1. To join or fasten together
  2. To associate or consider as related: no reason to connect the two events.  See Synonyms at join.
  3. To join to or by means of a communications circuit: Please connect me to the number in San Diego.  Her computer is connected to the internet.
  4. To plug in (an electrical cord or device) to an outlet.

v.intr.

  1. To become joined or united: two streams connecting to form a river.
  2. To be scheduled so as to provide continuing service, as between airplanes or buses.
  3. To establish a rapport or relationship: relate: The candidate failed to connect with the voters.
  4. Sports To hit or play a ball successfully: The batter connecte3d for a home run.

I thought about my word for the year quite a bit.  I really wanted to find a word that made sense and “clicked” for me as well as my word for last year did.   There were a few words that came to mind but honestly none of them were clicking.  None of them were making any sense to me.

I attended the new years eve service at Church and it was amazing.  I felt such a strong connection to God as I crossed over into the new year and I just knew.  My word for 2013 was to be connect.  At the heart of it all, life is all about connections.  We connect in so many different ways whether it’s with our family and friends, at work, with God, online,  while reading, talking, listening… its all about connecting and the connections made.

I believe with all my heart that 2013 is going to be a great year.  I know that life will happen.  There will be tough times.  There will be good times.  There will be average times.  But through all the “times” that I will have to face in the year, I will be connected to someone, something in some way, shape or form.

I really want to focus on my connection with God this year.  He’s been so good to me and has done so much for me in my life that I want to draw closer to Him and grow in Him.

I want to focus on my connections with my family and friends.

I want to focus on my connection with work and grow and expand in my career.

As always I want to maintain a healthy strong and loving connection with my husband and my son.

I’m excited for this year.  I cannot wait to see what it’s going to bring for me.