Whilst being a mother is without a doubt one of the best things that has ever happened in my life, I have to admit that there are times when things are hard. Each developmental stage is so different and they each come with their own set of challenges and frustrations.
Something is happening with my child that is driving me absolutely batshit crazy and I have no idea what is causing it and what to do to fix this situation. Kade is 15 months old now (sidebar – how the frigging heck did THAT happen??) and I don’t know if this is an age thing or what but something has got to give and considering I’m no longer a drinker it can’t be a bottle of wine giving me solace…
So. We went away for a weekend about two months ago. When we got back Kade went thru a patch where he (who used to absolutely LOVE bath time) would cry if we put him in the bath for bath time. We asked my mom if he’d slipped in the bath whilst with her and she said no. We asked Thembi if perhaps he’d fallen into the bath whilst at home during the say – she said no. He’d cling to us and lets just say that bath time was unpleasant and slightly stressful. This seemed to blow over after about 2 weeks and we soon went back to a happy bath time.
Until about a week and a half ago.
He’s started this again. Except it’s worse. WAY, WAY worse. He screams blue murder and cries uncontrollably and even tries to climb out the bath. He is one hundred percent fine whilst we run the bath. He likes to watch us prep the bath and chats (babbles) away to us. But as soon as we start to undress him he starts freaking out. And by freaking out I mean FREAKING OUT. Screaming and crying and kicking his legs. I’m sure the neighbors must think we are murdering him. Its getting so bad that we literally have to restrain him to get him bathed and it’s becoming a fight every night.
We’ve made sure the water temperature is 100% perfect. We’ve tried to sit in the bath with him to show him he’s safe. We’ve tried to distract him with a funky new bath toy. We’ve tried holding him close to give him a sense of security. We’ve tried reasoning with him (well as much as one can with a 15 month old). We’ve tried being stern with him. We’ve created a character called Captain Bathtub (the shower rinser thingi) that “calls” him to tell him to not be scared/angry in the bath.
Honestly I am at my wits end.
Bath time is becoming too stressful and not at all the happy family time that it used to be. What frustrates me to no end is he cannot TELL me what the heck is freaking him out. I cannot figure out what is causing this. I don’t want my child to HATE bath time. I want it to be a fun time for him – as indeed it used to be.
Has anyone had this happen to them? What did you do to fix it?