How I read…

Firstly thanks to everyone for the comments and suggestions on the bath time blues – Murphy’s law as soon as I posted within two nights we were back to a happy chilled child at bath time – go figure!

I saw this on Julia’s blog and as an avid reader, I thought it’d be fun to do myself 🙂

How do you organise your books?

The top shelf of my book shelf is for my non fiction and Christian books.  Also my quote books are on that shelf.  The rest of my books are grouped by author but are also arranged by size.  I haven’t done a clean up in a while, so now I have loads of books that are lying on their sides in front of my neatly organised books and it is driving me dilly –!

Do you prefer series books or stand alone books?

I will read ANYTHING good.  Stand alone, series, non-fiction – you name it I will read it.  If it is a series I always end up in a trap that I buy the first book, then have to wait for the second, third whatever number book and it annoys me.  But it does give me a good excuse to re-read the book that comes before in the series 😉

Do you have a favorite time of day and/or place to read?

I will read anywhere and anytime that I can.

I read on the loo, in my bed, in the bath (altho I hardly ever bath but when I do you can believe I have a book in there with me), I read while blow drying my hair, while cooking, as a passenger in a car on a long trip etc.  I grab every bit of reading time that I can.

Are you the type of person that only reads one book at a time or can you read more than one at a time?

I used to read up to 5 or 6 books at a time.  But I find as I’ve gotten older and as I have more on my plate I can no longer achieve this.  So now I read max 2 books at a time.

What is the last book you bought?

The last paper book I bought was the 50 Shade Trilogy.  The last kindle book I bought was War Brides.

What are you currently reading?

I’m reading War Brides by Helen Bryan, have only just started this but enjoying it immensely.  Prior to this I read a kindle book called A Mother’s punishment (can’t remember by whom now) and it chilled me to the bone.  A true story of a really f*cked up mother whose abuse of her daughter raised bile in my throat on countless occasions.

If you come across an unfamiliar word, do you stop to look it up right away?

Um no.  I write it down and look it up later.

(Jules – I might need kindle lessons from you… you can look up words immediately on kindle?? Winning!!!)

Do you snack while you read? If so, favorite reading snack?

No I don’t snack while reading.  I cannot handle smears on my paper books and my kindle is too new for that kinda disrespect 😉

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Need some advise…

Whilst being a mother is without a doubt one of the best things that has ever happened in my life, I have to admit that there are times when things are hard.  Each developmental stage is so different and they each come with their own set of challenges and frustrations.

Something is happening with my child that is driving me absolutely batshit crazy and I have no idea what is causing it and what to do to fix this situation.  Kade is 15 months old now (sidebar – how the frigging heck did THAT happen??)  and I don’t know if this is an age thing or what but something has got to give and considering I’m no longer a drinker it can’t be a bottle of wine giving me solace…

So.  We went away for a weekend about two months ago.  When we got back Kade went thru a patch where he (who used to absolutely LOVE bath time) would cry if we put him in the bath for bath time.  We asked my mom if he’d slipped in the bath whilst with her and she said no.  We asked Thembi if perhaps he’d fallen into the bath whilst at home during the say – she said no.  He’d cling to us and lets just say that bath time was unpleasant and slightly stressful.  This seemed to blow over after about 2 weeks and we soon went back to a happy bath time.

Until about a week and a half ago.

He’s started this again.  Except it’s worse.  WAY, WAY worse.  He screams blue murder and cries uncontrollably and even tries to climb out the bath.  He is one hundred percent fine whilst we run the bath.  He likes to watch us prep the bath and chats (babbles) away to us.  But as soon as we start to undress him he starts freaking out.  And by freaking out I mean FREAKING OUT.  Screaming and crying and kicking his legs.  I’m sure the neighbors must think we are murdering him.  Its getting so bad that we literally have to restrain him to get him bathed and it’s becoming a fight every night.

We’ve made sure the water temperature is 100% perfect. We’ve tried to sit in the bath with him to show him he’s safe.  We’ve tried to distract him with a funky new bath toy.  We’ve tried holding him close to give him a sense of security.  We’ve tried reasoning with him (well as much as one can with a 15 month old).  We’ve tried being stern with him.  We’ve created a character called Captain Bathtub (the shower rinser thingi) that “calls” him to tell him to not be scared/angry in the bath.

Honestly I am at my wits end.

Bath time is becoming too stressful and not at all the happy family time that it used to be.  What frustrates me to no end is he cannot TELL me what the heck is freaking him out.  I cannot figure out what is causing this.  I don’t want my child to HATE bath time.  I want it to be a fun time for him – as indeed it used to be.

Has anyone had this happen to them?  What did you do to fix it?


Secret Santa Blogger Style…

Last year I found out about about the bloggers Secret Santa movement when everyone was in the throws of receiving their awesome gifts, and I knew that this year I wanted in… without a doubt!  So I was chuffed to see via several bloggers I follow that Secret Santa is on again this year…

Do you want in like I did???  Well do you??  Good!  Cos this is how you get to take part…

Charlotte from The Stiletto Mum is organising it this year.

Here’s how it works
· All names must be entered by 16 November 2012.
· Charlotte will email you your person by 21 November 2012.
· It’s a secret, the person you’re buying for may not be buying for you so be nice or you may get coal.
· Gifts must be under the value of R100 (pre postage) if you want to spend more feel free, but if about the love that goes into the gift rather than the price.
· If you are no longer able to participate let Charlotte know asap.
· Charlotte will list all blogs involved as she receives them – last year we even had 2 non-bloggers.
· Anther cute thing we did last year was a post about the things you like so that your Santa can get an idea of who you are ( As soon as you have joined and did the post, email Charlotte the link to set up for you.
Email c.l.coetzee at gmail dot com if you want to join in.
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