Was it worth it?

I get asked this question A LOT.

I am very open about the fact that it took us 6 IVF attempts to conceive Kade.  I truly believe that if my story can help make one woman/couple not feel so alone in her/their own struggle, or if my story can help give one woman/couple some hope then then it was all worth it.  So I share our story with most people who comment on our son, or if it comes up in conversation.

The seven years we battled infertility were hard.  It put pressures on our marriage that we could never have imagined.  It put massive pressures on our finances.  On our emotional well being both as a couple and and as individuals.  But we were lucky.   We had our families and  I had amazing online support through Fertilicare and through the many blogs I found, started reading and participated on via Mel at Stirrup Queens.  I met wonderful people who I would never have met if not for that journey of infertility.  I found out that I was not alone.  That I was not THE only freak out there that could not conceive.  And so the tapestry of our journey was woven.

Looking back now, I can say without a shadow of a doubt that it was well worth it.

I know that there may be some of you still in the trenches sitting here reading and rolling your eyes and thinking “easy for you to say, when you have your child”.  I know it, because I so often thought it when I was still battling.    But it was unequivocably worth it.  Worth every test.  Worth every needle.  Worth every drug.  Worth every tear.  Worth every arguement.  Worth every penny.  Because what we have now is priceless.  What we have now is unbelieveably special and remarkable.  A family.  That wonderful little boy makes everything we went through to have him SO VERY WORTH IT.

Its something that much like many things in life you can only explain once you experience it.

So for any of you out there doubting if the journey you are on will be worth it in the end.  It will be.  I can assure you of that. No matter how you get there, or the lengths you take to make it happen.

It will be worth it.


9 thoughts on “Was it worth it?

  1. I get asked it too – and I’d have to agree that it certainly has been worth it in every sense. Not only because of the ‘outcome’, but because of how it has shaped me into who I am today.


  2. So so worth it for me too. My only regret is taking a long break between our 3rd IVF and our 4th IVF. It would have been better to just get on with it. I met my two BFF’s and lots of other gorgeous friends as well. Because I now know how sweet success is, I can think of doing it all over again.


  3. I totally agree. The journey was really hard and really heartbreaking, but it has changed me for the better in many many ways. AND I can’t imagine a more precious boy than my son. He is worth it over and over again.


  4. I haven’t walked down that road but I hope this post will be a inspiration for many that are TTC. I’m also so happy that the hard road you had to walk led to such happiness for you and your husband Sam 🙂


  5. No one wants to live with regrets. If you didn’t try every single thing you knew to get to your son, you’d have always looked back and wondered “did I do enough?” And, clearly, God never put it upon your heart that it was time to let go. I always tell people that if God is impressing so strongly upon your heart the desire to be a mother, DON’T STOP. He’ll take you there.



  6. So absolutely worth it! And, like Lesley, I also wish we hadn’t taken such a break. But then again, Katy may not have been Katy and to me she is just the perfect result of all those years of TTC 🙂


  7. Yupp, it is worth it…worth every tear, worth every injections, worth every op…..
    Would I do it again?….not in a big hurry…

    The saddest part for me is that the joy you experience is hard to relay to someone still in the throws of IF…for them, there is no light at the end of the tunnel(yet)..and they do not want to hear how wonderful it is to be pregnant..or that they should hang in there because it is worth it.

    But once they get there, they totally get what you were trying to say…and will tell everyone “It is worth it”…smile


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