This is exactly how I feel today. Bah humbug.
And this is why. I got an email from a friend today. A friend I used to share a house with and who admittedly I have lost “closeness” with. Her first child was “one time without condom” oops. A real miracle child considering that my friend was told she’d never have kids.
Once her daughter was born she never went on birth control and she and her husband have been trying for # 2 since their daughter came along. She’s unfortunatley had 2 miscarriages in the last 3 years and in her email said they did not want to announce their pregnancy until they were past the 12 week mark in light of their history with m/c. I totally understand that and I am SUPER happy that she is finally going to get her second child. I really am.
I spoke to her just shot of a month ago. She had called me to ask me if I was pregnant cos she said she had a feeling I was. I assured her I was not and she went on about how she was SO sure that I was. After chatting a bit I asked her where she and her hubby were in terms of ttc. She said they were still trying. But she was already nearly 9 weeks pregnant. I have to admit that I am a bit upset by this “white lie”. I understand in my heart of hearts why she never annoucned her pregnancy before passing the 12 week mark, but in light of the nature of our conversatoin and how she went on and on and on about her having a feeling *I* was pregnant and not telling, I’m a bit miff with her.
That being said I guess we’re in much the same boat as she was about not wanting to say anything about the pregnancy. We have not told many people that we’re busy with IVF. The only people that do know are the people who read this blog, our direct families and one set of RL friends. With our last treatments we told a lot of people – many of which did not understand the process and honestly probably did not care overmuch. At this point I just don’t need the added pressure of “everyone” being in the know so to speak…
So the question is this, am I being hypocritical by feeling hurt that she kept this secret from me?