You know what is harder than having to deal with a BFN after a “perfect” IVF cycle? Hearing your doctor say that he is just blown away by the fact that it did not work cos he thought it was “a done deal”. *Sigh*
The post mortem of the cycle was a really good thing to do. It has helped me close many of the open holes that I had in terms of dealing with this BFN. My doc is very happy with the protocol of the cycle, and was more than happy with my reaction to the stimming process, he was chuffed with the egg retrieval and the fert rate of our little ones. He was very pleased with Cliff’s sample from the day (80% of his boys survived overnight – apparently 25% is considered good). The only thing he was not pleased about was the fact that we ended up with a BFN. My main concern was the fact that I only made it to 9DP3DT, and he was concerned about that too.
Right now we are going to focus on doing an FET. We have four good embies on ice and realistically we would never have frozen them unless we were going to use them. So I am on BCP and will be kicking off the cycle on the 26th June with a scan to make sure my ovaries are nice and quiet, then I will start with lucrin to make sure they stay that way and then we’ll mix some estrogen into the mix to beef up my lining and do transfer when the lining is ready and the embies thaw and grow to day 5. Once transfer is done I will be doing PIO shots instead of the cyclogest to make sure that I get the most progesterone that I possibly can. I believe they are shyte sore to administer, but I will do whatever it takes!
IF we ever need to do another fresh cycle, my doc will keep the protocol the same, the only things he will change are that we will automatically do a 5 day transfer vs the 3 day transfer and I’ll do the PIO shots instead of cyclogest.
Now I need some advise from those of you who did FETS please!
- How soon did you do your FET after your failed cycle?
- What were your reasons for waiting if you waited a while?
- How many embies did you have on ice?
- How many embies made the thaw and were transferred?
- Did you have any successses with FET’s?
Either way we are moving forward with our FET at the end of this month, I feel ready for this, and have peace in my heart about our decision… I just want to get a bit of background from FET’ers.