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By: Been thinking… « Communiqué

Been thinking… « Communiqué — Wed, 03 Jun 2009 14:44:56 +0000

[...] is the friend who I had a little spat with a while back (read about it here and here) and while we have been trying to make the friendship work, due to the fact that she lives so far [...]

By: chicklet

chicklet — Thu, 10 Jul 2008 19:19:53 +0000

I’ve had really similar issues with a friend of mine with kids, and it’s hard cuz there’s parts of us that have just grown apart, but parts I wish hadn’t but know the infertility was a factor. We’ve both changed and there’s a lot going on, and it’s hard not to let this stuff get into it and mess with friendships.

By: Maritza

Maritza — Thu, 10 Jul 2008 10:30:49 +0000

Well then. We will indeed see how it goes.

Tricky beast this managing each other’s expectations…

By: ajmann77

ajmann77 — Thu, 10 Jul 2008 03:30:44 +0000

What a rough patch this is for you and your friend. Maybe your friend needs help with how to help you? I organized a support group and pamphlet for loved ones of those who suffer from Infertility. The right and wrong questions to ask. I don’t know how you can suggest this but maybe she could go here: http://www.hannah.org/supporting.htm I think it really touches on how to support a friend. I hope this doesn’t ruin a good friendship…infertility takes so much from us….don’t let it take anything else. Take care!

By: geohde

geohde — Thu, 10 Jul 2008 01:32:30 +0000

Very glad to read that the two of you have managed to uncross those wires

By: Calliope

Calliope — Wed, 09 Jul 2008 21:06:00 +0000

good for you guys!
I think making the choice to be better at communicating is wonderful. It really is so very hard to be a friend to a women dealing with infertility. I mean we basically have to train our friends how to support us. Looks like you have a friend worth training!
xo

By: Elize

Elize — Wed, 09 Jul 2008 16:22:00 +0000

You must have been soooo relieved!!! I’m so happy she called back. There’s nothing worse than wondering what went wrong! I’m so glad she called and you guys talked it out.

By: Sian

Sian — Wed, 09 Jul 2008 14:19:27 +0000

I am working with a new concept….balance. This means acknowledging the ‘bad stuff’ for how it has served us and shaped us as people. Every @#$% situation has something that molds us in some way. Does that make sense?y

But WOW. I think you handled the first conversation with her wonderfully. I wish I could be as brave in a situation like that. I normally just leave it.

Well done Courageous Sam!

By: Journeywoman

Journeywoman — Wed, 09 Jul 2008 14:05:53 +0000

I’m so glad

Self absorbed happens on both sides.

By: Jendeis

Jendeis — Wed, 09 Jul 2008 12:55:04 +0000

Again, just shows why I’m so proud of you! You really stood up for yourself and your friendship. F took that step when the ball was in her court. Now you can both work at making sure the friendship stays afloat. Yay Sam!